From Judgment to Connection: Releasing the Scorecards in Relationships with Soul Recovery

As we move through life, many of us unconsciously carry mental scorecards—marking every unmet expectation, every imbalance, every moment we don’t feel seen or respected. In this episode, I share how that scorekeeping nearly unraveled my marriage and strained my connection with my children. What I discovered is that it was never really about who did the dishes or picked up the socks—it was about the deeper desire for respect, for energetic balance, for love. 

Soul Recovery teaches us to turn inward, to ask what our reactions reveal about our own beliefs, needs, and wounds, so we can begin healing at the root. This doesn’t mean excusing harmful behavior or pretending everything is okay—it means reclaiming our power, seeing with spiritual eyes, and making choices aligned with our authentic selves. When I stopped keeping score and started focusing on energy exchange and honest connection, everything shifted. This practice extends beyond our closest relationships into how we interact with the world: with compassion, with clarity, and with courage. What scorecards are you holding? And what could change if you put them down and chose to see through the eyes of love?

Join Rev. Rachel for an upcoming Soul Recovery workshop or retreat—an opportunity to deepen your healing, release old patterns, and reconnect with your true self. Learn more and register at https://www.recoveryoursoul.net/inperson

This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.

Chapters

• 0:00 The Problem With Keeping Score
• 5:34 Soul Recovery Turns Attention Inward
• 11:18 Energy Exchange vs. Scorekeeping
• 17:15 From Competition to Connection
• 23:12 Seeing Through Eyes of Love
• 32:12 Breaking Free from Fear-Based Relationships
• 37:20 Join the Recovery Your Soul Community

Transcript

Rev Rachel Harrison: 0:00

When I was in those darkest years of my marriage and with my kids and their addiction and everything that was happening. It was as if I had scorecards for everybody and I was just ticking off. Every single time there was something I didn't like. And let me tell you, I had a lot of things that I didn't like and, ultimately, this piece of keeping such diligent track of what I didn't like was keeping me stuck. It was making me miserable. I wasn't working on myself. I wasn't actually seeing the situations for what they were, for the relationships for what they were, and I wasn't learning what I needed to learn, because I was so consumed with what I didn't like that was happening and what I didn't like about them that they were doing. Soul recovery turns the attention back to ourselves. It isn't that those things aren't happening. It isn't that there isn't an uneven energy exchange. It's about learning that we can't control them. It's about coming back to ourselves, recognizing where we can make a difference in our own lives, how we can see it from a different place, and from that place we can make choices in our lives that are aligned with the authentic nature and the truth of who we are, and we can stop keeping score. Enjoy the episode.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 1:16

Welcome to the Recover your Soul podcast a spiritual path to a happy and healthy life. My name is Reverend Rachel Harrison. I started Recover your Soul after having profound changes in my life, from my recovery of alcoholism, codependency and control addiction. I was guided to share the tools and principles of spirituality and soul recovery to help others transform their lives as mine was transformed. For us to overcome external circumstances, we need to turn the attention to ourselves, focusing on our inner change and healing. Positive results in our lives will follow. Welcome to the Recovery Soul Podcast and Community. I'm Rev Rachel. Thank you so much for taking the time to be here with me today.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 2:04

This is a inner journey. It's an opportunity for us to step away from the outside world, connect to our inner selves, begin to look at what's going on with us, how we feel, how we can take our power back and recognize that we're needing other people and circumstances to be a certain way for us to be okay. And the truth is we're powerless over everything outside of ourself, not from a place of weakness, but from a place of freedom. To truly recognize that we are indeed powerless over everything outside of ourself and we can stop looking for it to be different and start recognizing what is and how we can step into our own way of being and heal the parts of ourself that need to be healed and be able to be in the midst of all of it with what it is, with strength and compassion and grace and the ability to be our higher selves through all of it. It is soul recovery and I have been on this journey now for well, for 55 years being years being that I'm 55, but solidly on my soul recovery journey of recovery from alcoholism and really stepping into the rooms of Al-Anon and learning that it was okay for me to look at my feelings, what was going on for me, I could actually choose myself and not try to attempt to fix my family, and it was really the start of my own soul recovery journey.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 3:25

And I stand here today, sit here today, speaking into this microphone from this place of just incredible gratitude, just such deep, deep gratitude for the transformation that's happened within myself, for the part of me that has begun to see the world, see my relationships, see how I interact with every single thing through the eyes of love. Really, I spent so much of my life looking through the eyes of fear and pain and and just the suffering that comes from wishing that it was different. And the truth was there was a lot going on. I think the key that I hope that you're always getting from soul recovery is that I'm not saying that it isn't hard or strange or difficult or or really challenging out there, because those are happening. Those things are happening, but I was so consumed with the challenge and so consumed with wanting it to be different that I actually wasn't even enjoying the parts as much as I could have with what was, and in the end, I was keeping score. And that's what I wanted to talk about today, as our focus was this part of us being able to let go of this really destructive behavior where we keep score, because when we're keeping score with somebody, we are making a judgment about whether something is good or bad and we're toggling little tick marks on each side and we're beginning to look at everything through the lens of not enough, through the lens of pain, through the lens of I need you to give me this for me to feel a certain way. And, ultimately, what I think is so interesting is, as I've done this work for myself and as I've worked the nine step soul recovery process in my own life.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 5:13

I look around and I'm super curious. I think I've said this before in podcasts. I'm not exactly sure how much has changed in my life around me. I mean, my life around me has definitely changed, but really I couldn't tell you how much of that is real or how much of it is just the fact that my perception has changed, my interactions have changed, my way of viewing it has changed that I am indeed looking through the eyes of love more Almost every morning, though not all the time kind of depends on the day, but a good portion of the time.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 5:52

One of the rituals that Rich and I do when we're drinking our coffee is that we'll listen to 10 minutes of something spiritual, and quite often it's the Course in Miracles. The Course in Miracles is a channeled work of spiritual direction and it has workbook exercises as part of it, and so we've been listening to these workbook exercises ever since we got back from Indonesia last year. So it's been a slow and steady process, and before that we did Wayne Dyer's reading of the Tao, and then sometimes we'll just do a guided meditation, or sometimes we'll find something on YouTube that is inspiring. But that concept of us starting the day together, doing something together that is inspiring and it gives us a conversation piece to talk about, has been really beautiful in our relationship. That's one of the beautiful things has changed in our communication.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 6:45

Today's message in the Course in Miracles was the idea that if we can look through the eyes of love at everything, everyone, every situation and it isn't easy to do that because there is so much difficulty, because there is so much diverse thoughts, division in what we think, so much push and pull but if we can remember to look upon every soul through the light of who they are and to begin to separate that out from the pain that we have around us and I loved it because it really is the perception that's changed in my own life and it's what I teach in soul recovery and I work with you when we do coaching is this ability for us to step into a more spiritually grounded place. But what I remember when I wasn't in that place was this heavy laden irritation that I had all the time about keeping score and I was keeping score in everything. I was keeping score in everything. I was keeping score in our conversations about if I said something but he didn't say it. I was keeping score about chores. I was keeping score about how we were with the kids. I was keeping score about whether I thought I knew better than he did in some situation. I was keeping score about whether I thought I knew better than he did in some situation. I was keeping score about how often he was pissed off. I was keeping score about how we spent our money. There was some checkbox being marked everywhere about whether this was good or bad or acceptable or not. Acceptable to me, and I'll tell you what it took a lot of negative energy. Acceptable to me, and I'll tell you what it took a lot of negative energy. It took a lot of energy for me to continue to keep score because I had to be vigilant about this level of intensity that I was keeping, about whether he was meeting some criteria that I was keeping. And I kept score with the kids too.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 8:42

Ultimately, we're keeping score about whether they're doing a good job or whether they're doing a bad job, or whether they're meeting the needs of what I think my friend's kids are doing, or whether they're keeping up with some supposed to be that they're supposed to be doing. Was I meeting up to what people's expectations were, all these scorecards. And when we do that, we're actually doing what I speak so often about in step two of soul recovery, in terms of admitting that we're powerless. We are thinking that we have power, we're thinking that we can control that if we stand in this place where we think we know, then maybe it will be different. Well, ultimately, all of that is a lot of wasted energy, and what it brought to me was it made me separate from. It made me separate from Rich in every single way possible, from my friends if their kids were doing better than my kids. It made me feel separate from the people at work, because I was trying to keep score about what was happening and whether I was being good or, oh my gosh, at work. I was just always trying to prove myself right, whether somebody was taking away from me in some way. And when we do that, we're actually giving our power away again and again and again and again to somebody else. We're saying that they need to live up to some standard for us to be okay. Are You're forgetting where you are? Because when we look outside, when we're constantly needing the outside to fill our inside, we're going to forever be disappointed.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 10:33

The spiritual teachings that I read and listen to so often talk about that part of us that says you have to give, to receive, but not give. From the codependent place that says I'm going to take care of you and I'm going to be in charge of everything, I'm going to make sure everyone has what they need and I'm going to over over over give and then maybe you'll give me something back. It's not that at all. It's about recognizing energy exchange. One of the things about spirituality that's so awesome that matches science is that we're talking about energy. We are energy beings. We are these incredible atoms, these incredible little bits of energy that have become our form.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 11:16

And when you go into quantum mechanics and I was about to say quantum spirituality when you go into quantum mechanics and quantum physics, the wild thing is that we're nothing anyway at all. The moving of the energy. It's really nothing and it gets pretty far out there and pretty wild to think about. And when we are in this place of like, just holding so tightly to what we think it is supposed to be, we're actually not in a place of energy where we can give and receive energy in a healthy way. And so when you look about what keeping score is. It's really our innate knowing that there's a difference in the energy levels that are being given and there's some real truth to it. So I always hope that you hear me saying that it's not airy-fairy, that if you just change your perception that somehow miraculously your husband will start to load the dishwasher, because good luck with that right. He will not start loading the dishwasher out of some miracle. However, however, when we switch it from this fight, when we switch it from this intense blaming keeping score and Rich used to say to me on a regular basis he would say I feel like we are on opposite sides and I would think to myself yeah, we are Well, who wants to be on the opposite side with your spouse? And we are on opposite sides because we are in such opposition to how we saw our kids and how we wanted to raise them, and there was a lot of pain in that and there was some real differences in our values that we hadn't ever discussed or had clarity on.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 12:52

When we first started this process together, all starry eyed and in love with each other and drinking drinks and having a great time, we had those kids and we didn't even begin to know how to communicate about what it was to have children, what were our values? What did we think? And then I had shown up in this way? That was that I'm going to take care of you and love you and be the one that takes care of everything, because that's my belief system, that I think I'm supposed to take care of everyone, until all of a sudden, I was raging with resentment that I was the one that did everything.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 13:28

Well, guess who set that up? Guess, who created that energy field? Guess, who was the one that did everything? Well, guess who set that up? Guess, who created that energy field? Guess, who was the one who was always giving the energy and there wasn't a reciprocation because it wasn't set up in the first place. And does it mean that you can't eventually switch and align those energies? No, of course not. It means that you have to take responsibility first and foremost for how you created the construct of the communication and the systems that are in your family. So, as I worked on my belief systems, as I worked on those core elements of myself that we work on in soul recovery, step three in soul recovery being that we are looking at our underlying patterns and stories.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 14:13

What are my underlying patterns and stories? And somewhere in it, mine was take care of everybody. Be the one that gives the most energy. Be the one that is the giver, giver, giver. Take care of people, please. Are codependent, and that leaves you with nothing in the end. It's depleting, Because you're giving love in hopes to receive love, but the kind of love that you're going to get back isn't the true love that's within you, which is the truth of you knowing who you are, knowing your own value, having clarity of what you need, allowing people to be uncomfortable, allowing situations to be uncomfortable. Allowing situations to be uncomfortable. So the keeping score was this attempt for me to try to get the energy, this energy exchange that I was actually needing, because it wasn't about who was doing the dishes, who was doing the dishes in our house. Still to this day, I do 80% of the household stuff.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 15:19

And now the way that Rich exchanges that in his energy exchanges, he pays for a house cleaner to come every four to six weeks and do a deep clean on the house. That's his way. That he said I recognize I'm not going to show up and be a cleaner with you. I don't want you to clean. I recognize this is important to you to have a have fairness in this. I'm just not that kind of a guy I'm going to pay for it. I love that. That is. That has been working great for me, but I've stopped keeping score around.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 15:44

What it felt like in terms of household chores? Because it wasn't about the household chores. It felt like in terms of household chores because it wasn't about the household chores. The score wasn't about whether he was picking up his clothes or wiping the counter. It was about the energy that I felt, about respect. It was about being seen. It was the part of me that felt like it was taken for granted.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 16:06

When the energy starts to shift and when you start doing this work and you start being able to connect, and when you start doing this work and you start being able to connect and communicate with the people in your lives, without this constant score card, you also change your gameplay and we stop having gameplay that's winner, loser. I'm right, you're wrong. Somebody's going to win and someone's going to lose, and you know what this is society. Society teaches this level of intense gameplay. Only one person wins the million dollars. Use them until you kick them all out of the island Survivor is one of my favorite shows.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 16:39

They'll watch it every single season and I watch people create these relationships that are either based on trust and integrity or they're based on deception and fear and control. And underneath, one person wins and some people end up being willing to sacrifice themselves because their integrity is more valuable and more important than pushing for the money. And some people will do anything, anything to anyone, in any way, to get the money. And in the end, it doesn't matter if you have the money or not. It matters about how you showed up for yourself, how you were with people, who are you underneath, and that's the same with our families, too.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 17:25

Is this tit for tat? This very, very painful scorekeeping, is actually our way of marking our pain, because we're not actually saying click, you didn't do that. What you're saying is I don't feel respected, I don't feel like we're in connection, I don't feel like we're a team here, I don't feel like we're working on this journey together. And it's important that we have clarity about what actually is it that we're feeling, because once we understand what we're actually feeling, then we get to connect with ourselves and understand what those feelings are trying to tell us, because when something doesn't feel good, it's actually giving you information. Because when something doesn't feel good, it's actually giving you information, and it isn't that we're supposed to feel good and be in perfect, perfect harmony and bliss all the time either. There has to be a light and a dark, there has to be the good and the bad, there has to be the polarity, there has to be the intensity of fear and love for us to be able to move closer and closer to love, if that's what we're willing to do to look through the eyes of love.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 18:35

And so over the last seven years, the transition for me has been slow, and there's definitely days where I find myself wanting to pull my little scorecard out and lick my little pencil and do a check mark. Oh, you didn't do this for me. And you know last fall, when Rich and I had our sort of surprising situation where all of a sudden he's like well, if you aren't happy, you can leave. I pulled all my scorecards out. I pulled my scorecards out. That went back 30 years and there is a lot of check marks on the side of hurt, angry, resentful. A lot of them, a lot of them.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 19:17

But when we're living off of the scorecard, we're not actually doing the work to look at what is in a way that is healthy enough for us to say does this align with me? Because if there's a constant need to scorecard people, that they're not showing up for you, that they're not exchanging energy in a healthy way, there is a reason why you're feeling that way and there might be an important part of looking at your life and saying this actually doesn't line up and it's not about trying to even out the scorecard or fix or change them. It just is and what is is not going to work for me. What is doesn't feel good to me. I can't be my full expression of self. I have to lose myself. I have to be something that I'm not to be in this and that's why it keeps hurting and hurting and hurting and hurting. And that desire to pull out the scorecard is actually an indication that there's something else going on.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 20:20

But if you are in a relationship where there's an opportunity for growth and there's an opportunity to continue to work together, spirituality is relationship. We are in relationship with every single thing, whether it's a person or an animal or nature. The more awake you are, the more conscious you are. In each of those relationships you recognize that each one is an opportunity for you to grow and learn about yourself and be your full expression of self. I believe that the will of spirit, the will of the universe, is for you to be magnificent, to be your full expression of self, to stand in these gifts that are given to you, to be this incredible human being.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 21:06

But most of us play small, most of us are afraid, most of us are playing from our old beliefs and our old stories and our old victim mentality. And it comes from scorecards, because we were scored when we were younger. Somebody was telling us on a regular basis nope, not good, oh good girl. Nope, not good, oh good boy. Scored again, and again and again. So not keeping score does not mean that you lay down like a doormat. What it means is that you start to look from your higher self at what is and you recognize the energy exchange and where are you putting out energy that is not being reciprocated back relationship is that 80% of the stuff that I do the dishes, the cooking, the cleaning, the grocery store same same same 80% always.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 22:09

The energy exchange is totally different in our relationship now because his energy exchange to me is increased by 80% in our relationship, and I can I can hardly really describe to you what it is, because if I was in the scorecard of saying, you know, does he pick up his clothes? No, he doesn't pick up his clothes, but he's awake and he's interested and he's willing to have conversations and he shows up with an intention in our relationship. Is he awake all the time? No, does he need to be? No, and it's not that I'm demanding and sucking the energy from him. It's that we both have more presence of who we want to be and how we want to show up for each other. And I'm as interested in providing energy, but not giving energy, as if I'm a we just bought an electric car, so it's not as if I'm plugging my plug into his battery. It's more like we're both showing up having plugged our batteries into the universe, into the cosmic love and energetic force of the universe, where we feel more attended to ourselves from our own way of being, that we're locked in on that space. And then, when we show up, there's energy to give each other. The energy exchange is, and so you know there's more. Oh, I was going to pick up dinner. Can I get you know what are you interested in instead of? Are you making us dinner, kind of a thing. You know there's more? Oh, I was going to pick up dinner. Can I get you know what are you interested in Instead of? Are you making us dinner, kind of a thing, you know.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 23:43

I wish that I could describe it more clearly, because it is so not tit for tat anymore I can't even pull out of my head what it is, except that such a big piece of it that I want to give you is I've decided to spend more time and energy seeing the good, seeing what is working, seeing the beauty of the human being that is my partner, seeing the beauty of my children, and it's not like life doesn't continue to be lifey. If you listen to the podcast, you know that I am still having very real life stuff. This whole thing with Alex and him having a new baby is is uh Ooh. There's some stuff going on inside of me of all of my control mechanisms of are freaking out about wanting it to be a certain way, because I have a lot of fear and I'm working on those things. I just talked about that in the last bonus podcast. This piece of us doing our work is constant. It's this constant reflection of ourselves.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 24:54

Are you ready to step into your soul recovery? Visit the website. Are you ready to step into your soul recovery? Visit the website recoveryoursoulnet to learn more about the nine step soul recovery process. I hope that you'll join us the first Monday of every month for the free soul recovery support group on zoom, where we learn more about soul recovery and connect with each other. If you'd like to work directly with me to move through the nine step soul recovery process, I'm here for you, but you can also choose to work the steps on your own, with individual modules intended to support you to work at your own pace and on your own time. And if you want even more soul recovery, join us for the Recover your Soul bonus podcast for Patreon members and Apple podcast subscribers, where I interview amazing people sharing soul recovery tips for us and also do spiritual book studies. You can also find daily inspiration on Facebook and Instagram and join our private Facebook community. Visit the website for more information, links and registration for everything.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 25:52

Back to the episode and instead of having the gameplay where there's one winner, we switch to the gameplay, that is, everybody wins. And you know why everybody wins Because we're just one energy anyway. We are all these incredible creations out of the mind of source. We are all just love anyway. So if we can look through the eyes of love and the guidance that's coming to me is for us to remember to do this not just in our relationships but in the world. And this is hard and I'm feeling a lot of emotion because there's so much fear. Because there's so much fear, I feel the fear, I feel your fear. I respond to the fear that I see in social media. I respond to the fear that I have with my clients and in the congregations that I speak at. This is very real and our desire to separate and our desire to be of an opposite team, to take score that they're the good ones, they're the bad ones, we're the good ones, they're the bad ones.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 28:14

This piece that is around very real situations that are affecting people's lives in very real ways, and I think this is the piece in Soul Recovery that I hope that you get something that gives you strength from me there is a different way of being within yourself. There is a way that you can sit in very complex and difficult situations and still see it through gratitude and through the eyes of love. And it doesn't mean that you have to like it and it doesn't mean that it has to align with your every value. It means that you look past. It looks past that sticky, messy stuff on the outside and it never diminishes the light that is within each soul side and it never diminishes the light that is within each soul, no matter how cloaked it may be with pain or fear, dysfunction or anger. People do some really horrible things to each other and they do those things because they're afraid. And when we're in this place where we're keeping score, it's because we're afraid.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 29:31

And opening with love does not make you weak and it doesn't mean that you let people take advantage. It actually means that you stand even more firmly in the knowing who you are and how to show up in each situation and how to handle whatever is. And in that the energy exchange that happens can be one that provides love and energy outward. Imagine light radiating out. There's so much in all the spirituality that talks about light because we're energy.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 30:08

And again, all this stuff that I say on a spiritual level, take what you like and leave the rest. I'm not trying to push anything on you. I'm sharing with you how I see it, we are indeed light and we are indeed love, and we are indeed love, but it's masked with all of this competition and all this fear and all of this greed and power that really comes from a place of trying to keep ourselves safe, ultimately. And so whether we're looking at the larger world, where we need to have more compassion for each other, more willingness to understand that everyone is just doing the best they can with what they know, and what we know is getting more and more skewed and more and more complicated I know I just had an interaction with a family member that was incredibly painful around politics, and there's no point in fighting it, there's no point in trying to force your side, because, ultimately, what we all hear, what we're bringing into ourselves, feels very real over fear, that these concepts, these metaphysical concepts, they feel real to me and they're providing me with this enormous amount of peace in a world that is very complicated and in a family dynamics in which I've been, that have been very complicated and a marriage that was not happy or healthy at all for a long time.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 31:42

But it is now and my life is happy and healthy now and I do live in my world in a very different way. So even if what I've been taking into myself who knows what's true or right, but it sure feels right and true to me and that's the most important thing, that I can lean into that for myself and I hope that I offer that, that you can lean into that for you and I hope that I offer that, that you can lean into that for you. And I don't want to keep score. I don't want to keep score in my family. I don't want somebody else to keep score on me. That's what really hurt me with my family member was I felt like I was being judged and that was very painful to me.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 32:22

But I'm powerless over that Step two in soul recovery. I'm powerless over what people think of me, but I am not powerless about how I show up and I want to live from we all win game theory that there is enough for everyone, that in our families. The more that I can do this energy exchange of being light in love, offering light in love, seeing light in love and then being more clear about what is and the complexity of what is, without all the layers of judgment and fear and upset, then I can attend to it from my highest self, and some of that means that I make strong boundaries, that I cut off some relationships or that I have hard conversations but it's never from a place that is angry or in hatred or in the darkness to my best ability. So my offer to you is to be careful where you're keeping score and to notice that those scorecards are actually trying to give you information about something deeper in how you feel and maybe what beliefs are coming up for you, maybe where you're keeping yourself in situations that aren't healthy for you. The scorecard is giving you information. So, instead of thinking that it's about them, ask yourself what is this telling me about, what I actually think and what I actually need, and how I can approach that from a different way. How can I look and be in my life from a healthier, more spiritually centered, grounded place? So I hope that this podcast gives you some insight into how to look through the eyes of love in all of your relationships, and the eyes of love really mean unconditional acceptance of who people are, that you don't always have to like what that is and you don't have to have it in your life. It means that we stop trying to make it be different and we stop scoring it on the side of not enough, not good, not okay, and we hand it back to them with compassion and we say this is yours and I'm energetically going to keep what's mine and the energy exchange gets regulated.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 34:56

If you need help with any of this, I encourage you to do the steps on your own. They're on the website. There's modules for the first steps are available now. I'm working on the finishing the rest of the steps, or work with me with individual coaching. You are here on this journey to recover your soul. Until next time, namaste.

Rev Rachel Harrison: 35:18

Thank you for listening and I hope that that helps support your soul recovery process. Just a reminder that every Friday is the Recover your Soul bonus podcast. This podcast is for Patreon members and Apple podcast subscribers and not only do you get an incredible interview or book study that comes with being part of that community, but your subscribing helps support this podcast and the Recover your Soul community. If you want to listen to those bonus episodes but can't subscribe right now, do know that you can be a free Patreon member and have access for limited time to new episodes. Visit the website recover your soulnet or check out the show links below for coupons and information for upcoming events. I thank you for sharing this podcast with your friends and family. I thank you for giving it five stars, and the reviews that are left bring tears to my eyes. I am honored to be part of your life. Together, we can do the work that will recover your soul.